Boy, do I have a topic for you today. I want to talk about something that we really almost never read or hear about online. It's really a great piece of information to learn when looking for a GREAT RELATIONSHIP.
A SPECIAL NOTE TO THE READER HERE:
Before I go any further with this article, I want to explain that I am going to be referring to the issue at hand referencing men because it is a personal experience for me. Please know however that this issue I am discussing can also be referenced in regards to females in relation to their father also. Read farther to understand what I am talking about. There is really no man bashing here except for the character of this type of person in this article.
It's also important to know when it comes to mothers and their relationships with their sons. Today, I'd like to talk to you about something those of us in the therapeutic world refer to as "Parent-Child Relationship" issues. The term itself can be confusing when thinking about it in regards to how it pertains to a romantic relationship among two people.
Some of us, myself included in the past, tend to fall in love with "bad boys" or guys we see as "thick skinned but protective". While it's an awesome thing to be with a man who wants to protect you, be careful that you know the difference between protective vs. controlling. This is where many women get themselves into trouble and end up being strongly mentally and emotionally abused. Sucks! Doesn't it?
The man often grow's up with no respect for that female which then begins to happen with other women in the guy's life. He treats you amazing in the beginning when the two of you are just in the initial stage of dating. Life is fabulous when the "crush" feeling is going on. Who doesn't love that, right? It's when the relationship begins to get "real", more heart felt that you start seeing him disrespect you. Once there are disagreements and conflicts he begins to see you in the same way he sees his mother. Look out ladies -- if you think you can conquer this obstacle you are in for a big let down and heart break. It's not going to happen! Do you want to know why? He see's you as the problem. He doesn't think he is the one with an issue. Even though his relationships continue to fail and all have the same patterns, his behavior doesn't change. Sometimes, he may tell you he will change but it only take a few days or weeks for the old behavior to return. Why should he change after all? Again I tell you, he thinks you are the one who has the problem.
This is where I am going to leave off here today but I have a few more discussions on this topic that I believe can be really helpful to individuals who may be struggling in relationships. In the future, I would like to also discuss:
1. How this type of dysfunction carries over to a person's children and how mother's need to make sure they don't raise their son's to be this way.
2. How his "cheating" behavior is more twisted than you could even imagine and how it effects you. This is just insane and you might want to know what could be coming down the road. It's not at all what you might think!
3. Tips on how to know if he has Parent/Child Relationship issues early on when you are dating before you get heavily involved. Yes, there are red flags to look for.
Thanks for hanging out with me today and I hope you found this topic to be one of interest. I appreciate all of your patience with me over the last few months. Each day I am getting a little stronger and am determined to find a healthy balance with my health. Now, let's rock the rest of this summer out together, OK?
BIO: Irish Carter is a "Fibro Warrior", Wellness Specialist and Development Coach who owns Dedicated 2 Life. Her mission is to help others Rock Wellness and be the best they can be in both their personal and professional lives. Besides being a Coach in Personal and Professional Development, she is a proud mom, a serial entrepreneur, author of 2 books and several publications, as well as a motivational speaker. Irish has over twenty years' experience assisting in Wellness and Development topics and holds degrees in both Social Work and Human Services. She is available for private consulting and public speaking events worldwide.